Another scenario is their disappearance for hours on end, leaving you in a state of uncertainty. You’re unsure if they’re safe or in danger, prompting you to contact relatives or friends, seeking assistance or information regarding their whereabouts and activities. They reappear after several hours, texting declarations of love or sending perplexing and nonsensical messages that don’t align with the situation, making no sense. They might say things like ‘I love you,’ ‘You’re the love of my life,’ ‘I can’t live without you.’ Why? Because they’ve done something wrong, and they anticipate your discovery of their transgression. They’re already priming you, love-bombing you, breadcrumbing you, in preparation to evade accountability, to evade their lies, or to evade you when you confront them about their actions.
Number two: They May Feign Sleep on the Couch. They might pretend to sleep on the couch to avoid leaving the bed during the night. How bizarre is that? Typically, when narcissists communicate with their new supplies, they do so when you’re not present, when you’re unavailable, when you’re not watching. One of their preferred locations for this is the bathroom. They cherish the privacy it affords them for their deceitful activities. They might pretend to sleep on the couch, and if you invite them to bed, they’ll feign drowsiness, pretending not to hear you, and remain seemingly deep in slumber. Once you’re out of sight, they’ll suddenly awaken, brimming with energy, engaging in communication with others without concern for the hurt it may cause you if discovered. They might fall asleep in a bar, at a friend’s house, or at their parents’ house, all of which would be lies. They merely require a location to conceal their actions. They need an excuse to prevent you from discovering the truth.
Number three: They Would Pretend to be Exhausted and Hang Up on You. They’ll feign exhaustion and abruptly end the call, displaying disrespect, and claiming they need to sleep or can’t maintain the conversation due to an inability to concentrate. Let’s consider a long-distance relationship scenario where you converse with them weekly or in the evenings. During your conversation, they may be engaged in another call, leaving you waiting for their attention. Upon answering your call, they’ll immediately offer excuses, as they are pathological liars, convincing you they were occupied with their boss, a colleague, or a meeting. Shortly thereafter, they’ll grow bored, possibly within minutes, and desire to terminate the call. They’ll fabricate excuses such as ‘I’m utterly exhausted from work today,’ or ‘I had a challenging day at work,’ ‘I quarreled with my boss,’ ‘I had a disagreement with an employee,’ nonsensical explanations that leave you feeling disappointed. You eagerly awaited this conversation all day, only to receive complete apathy, disinterest, and detachment, as they seek to escape. It’s not simply about disengagement; they’re not truly seeking rest. What do they do instead? They utilize alternate phone numbers and means of communication to converse with other sources of supply, online or offline, because you’re not monitoring them, so why should they worry? They engage in unacceptable behavior behind your back and act as though nothing occurred. They display no guilt or remorse. The following day, they may text you, ‘Hey babe, how are you today? How was your night?’ However, if you attempt to discuss your feelings about their previous behavior, they’ll deflect, labeling you as needy or overly sensitive, blaming you for numerous things you never did. This is how they exploit tiredness, sleep, and the need for rest to evade accountability, perpetuate lies, or avoid you when confronted about their actions.
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