How to Outsmart the Narcissist

Do you want to know how to outsmart a narcissist husband or wife? Or how to outsmart a narcissist in court? In this article, you’ll learn how to make that narcissist suffer, phrases to disarm a narcissist, how to deal with a narcissist, how to shut them down, and covert ways to outsmart a narcissist the right way. Beat them at their own game by outsmarting the narcissist the right way after reading this article.

Number one, agree with them.

And I know what you’re saying: “What? Agree with them? They’re crazy. They’re pathological liars. They say anything they want to; they accuse me of stuff that’s not true.” I get it. I do. I’ve dealt with them, I’ve represented them, I’ve had them on the other side of my cases, and I’ve had to deal with them in my own life. So, nobody’s immune. Narcissists are everywhere, right? But I’m talking about ways that you can bring them down. Because, remember, a narcissist’s game is to manipulate you. I mean, you’d think it’s to beat you, but it really isn’t. Beating you isn’t the outcome. There’s really no outcome. They don’t really have a goal or an outcome.

Their outcome is just manipulating you, messing with you, and making themselves look as good as possible. And the only way that they can make themselves look good is by putting you down. And so if you steal their thunder, if you take their ammunition away, then they don’t know what to do with that. So you just say, if they say to you, “You’re always late.” Just say, “You know what? You’re right. I’m always late.” And they’re going to bristle at that at first. “Oh, you’re being… you’re talking down to me, condescending.” Whatever, they can say whatever you want; just say, “No, I’m always late.” That’s what you say. “I’m always late.” And you’re not saying it in a way that’s sarcastic, or they can tell that they’re getting to you, because the whole purpose of this is to just show them that you’re not affected, that you’re completely nonplussed by what they’re saying and how they’re saying it. You know, that’s their perspective. You’re always late, whatever. And they’ll be thrown off their game with that, okay?

Now the one little caveat I will say is that if you’re going to court with a narcissist, you definitely don’t want to say this, like in a deposition or in court or something like that. I mean, this is where you’re just having a conversation with this other person, and you’re just coming up with ways to outsmart them and kind of beat them at their own game. So, by them trying to manipulate you by getting a rise out of you and you just saying, “You’re right,” it stuns them. They’re not quite sure what to do with that, okay? So, that’s number one.