5 Weakness All Narcissists Have But Don't Want You To Know

They are chronically bored, and their interests are very short-lived. You need to understand that a narcissist is completely disconnected from their true self, which means the feeling of satisfaction, the feeling of gratitude, is extremely difficult for them to feel. Why? Because being satisfied is more of an emotional state than a state of having all of the materialistic and shiny stuff around you to feel satisfied. It has nothing to do with how much you have. Of course, the quality and the quantity of things do contribute to the level of satisfaction, but ultimately, your way of experiencing satisfaction is quite unique to who you are as an individual and what you want to have in your life and how you define it. For a narcissist, nothing is ever enough. That’s why their interests keep moving. They are not interested in anything. It’s like they are trying to fill a bottomless pit, and nothing fills it. They move from one hobby to another, they have this habit of hoarding cars, moving houses, moving places, doing bizarre things, and one of the things that you know about is just moving from one person to another. Why are they doing this? Because, number one, they do not feel satisfied with what they have, they are not connected with themselves. Number two, they have to have this intense feeling that you get as an addict when you take a dose, use a substance, and feel high. That is the kind of feeling they get every single time they purchase a new car, get a new house, or they are with a new person. They have to persuade them, woo them, make them fall in love with themselves. All of that is quite crazy and shallow, and that never lets a narcissist live a peaceful life. Let’s move on to number four.

Weakness Four (Obsessive Need to be Admired):

Their fear of being ashamed makes them obsessed about how they are perceived and how they look in front of others. You need to understand that a narcissist, even though it doesn’t look like they are ashamed of anything, or even if it doesn’t look like they feel any form of shame, they are deeply ashamed of who they are, and this shame is something that they always keep running away from. And anything that triggers it gets a spell of narcissistic rage from the narcissist. Look at your experiences with them. A slight remark, a slight comment would trigger a monster out of the narcissist, and you would wonder what happened there. That is the kind of shame that I’m talking about. They are deeply insecure, but they are stuck in a cycle of running away from shame, avoiding it. One of the ways they do this is they just want to maintain a facade. A facade of being amazing, great, wonderful, kind, compassionate, giving, grandiose, entitled, high class, whatever it is for them to just be seen as acceptable, to be seen as worthy of appreciation, to be seen as better than everyone else. And in the process of maintaining this facade, they put in a lot of energy to make sure that people do not get to see the rottenness within them. And the sad part of this story is that they sacrifice their loved ones in the process. For example, if you are talking about a narcissistic parent who is obsessed about their image in public, they would go on and use their children, their spouse as trophies to present them in public and get some kind of acceptance, some kind of admiration through them, without even caring about how being used as trophies affects the children, affects their spouse. That’s why it’s said that narcissists use you as objects, and this objectification becomes quite clear when they try to maintain the facade and keep running away from the shame that they innately feel. Let’s move on to number five.