The last thing I want to say about how to deal with covert narcissists is to understand the degree of danger involved. I know personally that every time I’ve called out a covert narcissist, and I think of a famous YouTube person, I think of a psychologist, a therapist, I think of a boss, I think of a friend, and it has always been a difficult uphill battle to not only survive, but to get out of it unscathed. I have to admit that I made a lot of mistakes trying to do it the right way, which is why I’m doing this article. The wrong way was to assume that my intellect or my ability to argue a point could be as good as theirs and take them on directly. In almost every case, it resulted in this long, extended argument, whether it was through email or face-to-face, but ultimately, in almost every one of the cases, I would find out behind the scenes how much time, energy, and even money the covert narcissist expended, resources that they expended to not only dismiss my claims, but to make me look like the bad person, ultimately resurrecting their image and their reputation. So to all my YouTube viewers, do not take on a covert narcissist directly. They have everything to gain by making you look bad, and their whole life story is about the manipulation of others, their perceptions, or feelings, their expectations, and to manipulate them to believe there’s something they’re not. So if you, no matter how right you are and how righteous you feel, want to take them on, there’s a good probability you’re going to lose. So cut your losses, identify their covert narcissism, come up with an exit plan, initiate it or execute it quietly without a lot of confrontation. Be prepared for the battle, which is for them too, passive aggression, passive-aggressively manipulates you and puts you in the bad light to make them look like the victim and you the perpetrator, and get the hell out of the relationship. Don’t argue with them, don’t go on a public forum, don’t try to prove your point because that’s it. It’s like wrestling with a pig and hoping you won’t get dirty. And by the way, pigs, as George Bernard Shaw said, and to say, saying pigs love to wrestle in the mud, ultimately, to achieve self-love, which really is the goal of every codependent or a person with self-love deficit disorder, wants is to disconnect from those pigs who love to wrestle of the mud. They suggest getting out of the relationship and find either a space where you can find yourself and nurture yourself and love yourself and then reconnect with others. You’ll find those are the ones who are really themselves, what you see is what you get. And I’ll tell you, after being in a relationship with a covert narcissist, you will really appreciate it. So find a way to heal the wounds, to love yourself, to reconnect yourself to what’s important to you and what you deserve, and then those relationships will happen and you’ll never again be subjected to a covert narcissist. And God forbid if one should come your way, you’ll see it, you’ll see that mask before they say “good night.
Early Warning Signs that the Narcissist Wishes To Return
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