But no sooner than those glimpses came in, they will move full speed ahead with their defense mechanisms. So they may become even more manipulative or more controlling, or they may expedite a relationship with someone new to prove to everyone, even themselves, that their royal image remains intact. Here’s a comment from one of you who clearly understands this well: “I have been 14 months of no contact with the exact story you have described, and it truly is sad to know that she is so stuck on herself. Deep inside, she is so miserable. I pray for her as well.”
So now here we are, hopefully living our best lives without the narcissist. For some of you, it will be over, and for others, not. Unfortunately, in an attempt to cling to that false persona, to claim their seat at the throne, a narcissist sometimes will escalate things to a full-on ugly smear campaign. But again, please understand that this is just proof that you’ve hurt the narcissist by walking away and taking away that supply. If it weren’t so damaging and infuriating, it would almost be flattering that they’re going to such great lengths. A narcissist will very much cut off their nose despite their face, meaning they’ll hurt themselves if it means hurting you too.
So here you might expect baseless rumors spread about your past, false claims that you’ve mistreated them, lies spread to family, friends, employers – really anyone who will listen. Nothing is off-limits here, and they’ll go to these great lengths because the more at peace and happy you seem, the more desperately they’re going to strive to sabotage and regain that influence. They want to have power and control over you again, and if they don’t have it, it attacks the very sense of who they are.
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