These statements are intentionally used by covert narcissists in particular to refrain from taking accountability for their actions while making others feel guilty for their actions.
Today, I have a few sentences that the covert narcissist would use to gaslight you into thinking and accepting that you are the problem and not them. This by no means is an exhaustive or conclusive list, but it is some of the most common ones. And the first one is, “I did not say that”— This one can be so frustrating because you know what you know you heard, but the narcissist wants you to doubt your recollection of events.
They want to convince you that you made all that up in your head because they never said anything like that. You must have misunderstood them or misheard them. This is why these slippery snakes need to be recorded. Because they will lie, gaslight, and deny it even though they know what the truth is. But narcissists are all about suppressing the truth when it comes to protecting their image and hurting yours.
And, because we often have no proof of what they said, they like to throw this statement at us, knowing that it will be our word against theirs.And usually, because of that immaculate fake image, others are likely to side with the narcissist and accept that we are the liars. We must indeed be the problem. But sometimes we ourselves end up conceding and questioning whether the narcissist actually said it or maybe they didn’t mean it that way and cognitive dissonance wins the day for the narcissist. Another popular statement narcissists like to make is ‘I am sorry that you feel that way’. This statement is usually in response to someone expressing disappointment or dissatisfaction with something the narcissist has done or said.
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