Today, we’re going to talk about narcissists and cheating. Almost everyone who has been in a relationship with a narcissist has had to deal with them cheating. Sometimes they have full-blown affairs, and many times, this is not a one-time occurrence. Narcissists tend to be serial cheaters. So today, I’m going to shed some light on why they continue to cheat.
So, why do narcissists cheat? Why is adultery such a common issue in these marriages? Let’s try to dissect this topic one issue at a time. First of all, in my opinion, the number one reason this happens is because the narcissist is addicted to narcissistic supply. When you think about the narcissist, you need to think of him or her as a drug addict, and the drug they are addicted to is narcissistic supply. They are addicted to feeling special, and that need is filled by the attention and adoration of other people. Narcissists use narcissistic supply as evidence and validation that they are indeed special, unique, and superior. It validates the delusion of the false self and serves to suffocate the wounded and insecure true self that feels deeply flawed and unworthy.
The problem, however, is that narcissistic supply is temporary. Like all drug addicts, a fix of their drug of choice is short-lived, and very soon, the hunt for more supply is underway. So the narcissist is on an unending search for narcissistic supply. However, there are very few outlets of narcissistic supply that are as satisfying as cheating or having an affair. This is one of the reasons why they do it and why they continue to do it.
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