There are certain questions that narcissists just can’t answer. And it may seem like you can’t have a conversation with them. They don’t want to reveal certain parts of themselves. There are things that they don’t want you to know. Because they’re paranoid and hypervigilant. They believe that everyone is out to get them. They believe that the world is not a safe place. They believe that it’s a dog-eat-dog world. It’s survival for the fittest. So they are constantly in survival mode.
The first one is anything that involves the truth.
They can’t answer anything that involves the truth. They can’t answer anything that involves the truth. And here’s the weird thing about them: they’re pathological liars, and I think you’ve probably figured that out already by now. But what I find really strange about narcissists is that they will lie about anything, including things they don’t even need to lie about and things that are readily verifiable. It’s so strange for me, as a person who would say that integrity is my love language, but I don’t understand, but I’ve seen it happen. I mean, I’ve seen situations where… I saw one time where a wife actually kicked the 14-year-old son out of the house at like one o’clock in the morning, ’cause she lost her temper on him and threw all his stuff outside, all out on the lawn. The husband, soon to be ex-husband, had to go pick up the son, pick up all his stuff, gather stuff up off the lawn, and put it in the car at one o’clock in the morning. And the soon-to-be ex-wife then writes an email to the husband saying, “This is probably for the best; give everybody a chance to cool down. You should probably contact the school bus service so that they know to pick him up over by your house, and we’ll all just take a break.” Next thing you know, she files a motion and writes under oath that the husband stole the child from him and basically kidnapped him and took him without her permission and all this stuff. When it’s readily verifiable because of the email that she sent to him that same night. It’s kind of crazy, but anything that involves the truth is a question that they can’t answer. If you asked her why she did that, she wouldn’t be able to give an answer.
So anything that involves the truth, anything that involves calling them out on their behavior, they like to deny, deflect it, project, make sure it’s not coming on to them, or anything that shows that you know what’s going on, is, again, part of the truth. And if you want to know more, by the way, on what narcissists do when they get caught in a lie.
The next thing is, anything that involves GIVING CREDIT TO SOMEONE ELSE
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