Have you ever been involved in a conversation and realized shortly after it ended that the other person wasn’t really paying any attention? What we mean is that every time you attempted to talk about your experiences or life, they just kind of detoured and made it about them. Now that we’ve mentioned it, you may immediately start thinking of certain conversations that fit that description. Well, what we have described are conversations with a narcissist. Having a conversation with someone who you may not be aware is a narcissist can seem frustrating, confusing, and a little intimidating. These conversations are usually self-absorbed and one-way. Some research shows that narcissistic people are often raised by parents who treated their children as superior beings, abandoned them, or mentally or physically abused them. Victims of these different kinds of trauma can show themselves in conversations if you listen carefully. So turn the volume up and listen to these different tips and tricks to spot a narcissist by having a simple conversation. You may be surprised at how many you have had recently.
Number 1: They make it clear they only associate with people of higher importance.
This one may seem unusual, but many narcissists talk about how they will only normally speak or associate with people of equal or higher class. You may be surprised and think to yourself, “No one would actually say that kind of stuff out loud, right?” Well, actually, a narcissist would.
Narcissists have a high sense of self-esteem, so they believe they only need to hang out with people who are as great as them. Narcissistic behavior may include making you feel inferior and saying things that make you feel like the conversation is almost like charity for them. This can cause hurt and embarrassment for the victim. These kinds of back-and-forth toxic emotions are a clear sign of talking to a narcissist, but most victims will not see that and allow the narcissist to abuse them. It is essential to step back when you start to feel like you are not good enough for the conversation and reevaluate if this conversation is worth the negative feelings you may encounter afterward. We promise it won’t be. There may be times when the person who makes you feel this way is a family member or coworker, and talking to them is unavoidable. It is important to set boundaries with those people. Narcissists will always believe that they are better than anyone else in the room and that no one will be as great as them. You see this a lot in coworkers, especially the ones who want to move up quickly. Many colleagues will brag on and on about how much they do for the boss and how much the boss relies on them. They say this so the other workers will feel like they do not have a chance next to them. Narcissists will only hang out with supervisors and higher managers who can help them reach the top. They make it clear to the workers who are on the same level as them that they are not going to be there long and that they will soon be working for that narcissist.
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