Today I want to talk about how the Narcissist knows they have lost you. How do they know when someone will be of no use to them? How do they weed out the good sources of supply from the bad ones? Well, Narcissists love having people around them. But ever so often the Narcissist loses out on that one or two who they cannot get their fangs into; to the point where the Narcissist knows that you are one of those who got away or they just cannot have again. The best way to get away from a Narcissist is to not be a source of any sort of Narcissistic Supply for the Narcissist. We know Narcissists are guilty of discarding people when there is nothing more to get from them.
The narcissists lose interest fast as they do not waste time with people who are not interesting to them or interested in them. They are very careful with their time and resources and if you are not providing that fuel to keep the Narcissist going, you become a liability and the Narcissist just doesn’t want you around anymore. Narcissists are all about control and they get control by being able to manipulate our emotions. They receive large amounts of Narcissistic Supply when they are the one pulling the strings and putting you on an emotional rollercoaster of crazy making. It makes them feel powerful when they know that they can make you laugh, they can make you cry, scream, feel sad, guilty and depressed. But above all, when they can manipulate you to keep them in your life. This is what makes them feel like they can keep playing with you.
At the end of the day, it all comes down to control. Narcissists need to be able to control you and they mainly do that through messing with our emotions. They like to know that they can influence our mood, our behaviours, our lifestyle and whatever else have you. They seem to know what to say and how to act to trigger a response. But we need to realise that the key is in when we react to the Narcissist. As long as the Narcissist knows they can influence you, push your buttons, or get you to react to them they think they’ve got you right where they want you. To the Narcissist, once you are emotionally invested in them, they know they can manipulate you. With that manipulation comes a sense of control. Once your emotions are involved when dealing with the Narcissist their ultimate aim will be to manipulate those emotions. So, once you know you are dealing with a Narcissist, you have to know how to control your emotions. If you don’t, the Narcissist will control them for you, it is that simple.
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