8 Lies All Narcissists Tell: Recognizing the Red Flags

Narcissists and the truth go together like oil and water. If you’ve ever been in a relationship with a narcissist, you know that lying is second nature to them. The deception isn’t random; there are common lies that all narcissists tell. Understanding these lies can help you identify narcissistic behavior and protect yourself from emotional harm. Here are eight lies that narcissists frequently tell.

1. “You Can Be Vulnerable with Me”

Narcissists often create an illusion of safety to get you to open up. They may tell you directly that you can be vulnerable with them or make you feel comfortable enough to share your deepest thoughts and feelings. They might ask probing questions and share personal stories to lower your guard. Unfortunately, if you’re dealing with a narcissist, your vulnerability can be weaponized against you. This false sense of security is designed to make you dependent on them emotionally, which they will later exploit.

2. “You Can Rely on Me”

Another common lie is the assurance that you can rely on them or that they “have your back.” While a narcissist might do nice things for you when it suits them, their primary concern is always their own interest. When push comes to shove, they will prioritize their needs over yours, often leaving you in the lurch at critical moments. The illusion of mutual support can quickly crumble, revealing their true self-serving nature.