Today I want to talk about the five ways we are being manipulative without even knowing it.
Most of us have felt manipulated by someone at one point or another in our lives. I have even discussed this before about gaslighting, narcissism, and toxic relationships. Because we talk about manipulation like it’s a terrible thing, and only horrible people engage in it. It can be really hard for any of us to imagine that we have done it to anyone else, but it’s more common than you think.
And if we don’t know we are doing it, we obviously can’t stop. And that’s why today I want to talk about the ways we may be being manipulative without even realizing it.
Example number one is passive aggression. I have so much to say about passive aggression, I even debated making an entire chapter of my book dedicated to it. But after talking to my editor, we thought that toxic relationships as a chapter were sufficient.
Now let’s be honest, most of us didn’t grow up in a family where clear and direct communication was supported. Meaning that we usually had to stuff our feelings down because we didn’t feel safe or supported to express them. Possibly, just to explode in anger or upset later. Or, on the flip side, maybe our family yells about everything, either way, no upsets were calmly and clearly communicated. Which usually means resolution or understanding didn’t happen either.
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