A good sense of humour is a positive trait and a well-needed ingredient for a happy, healthy relationship. Having a few inside jokes can create a bonding experience and ease tension in difficult situations. But Narcissists use humour as a weapon. It is their way of insulting you with a smile. And their hurtful remarks may quickly be followed by; “I was just kidding”, or “it was all in good sport”. But it is not. The Narcissist wants to get away with insulting you. And when you fail to see the humour in their remarks, they try to paint you as the bad guy or the prude who is so uptight. The Narcissist can use their toxic humour privately meaning one-on-one or they can do it in a group setting to humiliate you.
Very close to their toxic humour are their back-handed compliments. This is where the Narcissist begins to say something nice but ends it with an insult. For example, they may say: I like your hair style, as it makes your nose look smaller. Or they really like your outfit as their grandmother has the same. Their backhanded compliments leave you thinking; what exactly are they trying to say? But their backhanded compliments are meant to devalue you and leave you feeling very insecure.
Another thing they do is feign ignorance. Like pretending what they did or said was innocent and they can’t see the problem. Even though you may have communicated to them numerous times about something you don’t like or want. They will still turn around and do exactly that then pretend like they never knew, they understood it differently or that it never happened. The Narcissist would also openly disclose something you told them in confidence but then act like they didn’t realise it was that serious. They would be quick to refer to incidences like these as misunderstandings or that you were not clear enough about your feelings or wants.
6 Rumours Narcissists Like To Spread About You.
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