7 Tricks Narcissists Use to Make You Look Like the Problem

Narcissists will intentionally fall short of whatever it was that they promised. It can be out of spite or whatever, but certainly you’re the one who is going to take the blame or get penalized for it. This is something that narcissists would use a lot, especially if there’s this plausible deniability. They might “forget” to pay bills or loans, especially if these are under your name and you’re the one who is going to face the repercussions.

Coming in at five: toxic amnesia.

This is where they forget their faults but highlight yours. They’re always the perfect one and you are the one who is flawed and weighing down the relationship. They will never forget your failures. They seem to file them, categorize them alphabetically or in the Dewey Decimal System, and seem to pull them up in an instant, like it’s on speed dial, to throw them at you whenever it’s convenient.

Number six is: File false pleadings over and over again.

They make it seem like when there’s smoke, there’s fire. And this can’t be further from the truth. They’ll make a lot of noise so they can play with other people’s perceptions and get them to think that there’s something going on. Ironically, they don’t really respond to pleadings a lot of times. They’ll fill it, alright, but it would be incomplete, partial, and barely able to stand on its legs. But you have to remember that these pleadings that they file don’t need to be factual at all; what’s important is that they create enough noise so people will think that you’re the one who is causing all the problems in this relationship.