Things You Do That a Toxic Person HATES Vehemently

Number Three: Stop Cooperating

By that, I mean stop enabling. When you stop cooperating with the narcissist, what you are fundamentally saying is you are no longer going to enable their appalling and destructive attitudes and behavior. In spite of the backlash that may occur, you’re done. And in my view, this is always the right thing to do. Enablers are a big part of the problem in the realm of narcissistic abuse. In fact, if it weren’t for all the enabling that goes on around the destructive narcissist, they might actually have to feel some discomfort and experience some consequences for the destructive way they show up in your life and in the world in general. And the reality is narcissists respond to consequences, nothing else. So stop cooperating and stop enabling.

Number Four: Stand Up for Yourself

Standing up for yourself is an act of self-love and self-respect. Now, of course, you want to do this safely. I’m not suggesting anyone go out of their way to provoke conflict and end up getting hurt unnecessarily. But neither should you be walking on eggshells or tiptoeing around a toxic bully just to appease their fragile ego, delusions of grandeur, and overinflated sense of entitlement.

Number Five: Thrive

People with a destructive narcissistic personality pattern are deeply jealous, insecure, and envious. Never mind outward appearances and how cocky and sure of themselves they appear on the surface. I assure you, under the mask and false persona is a very fragile ego riddled with feelings of inadequacy and uncertainty, and nothing triggers their envy and jealousy faster than you thriving. Don’t kid yourself. You shining brightly, thriving in life is not something they’re ever going to be happy about. They far prefer to see you struggle because that props them up in their false sense of superiority and enables them to look down their nose at you. Remember, the people who don’t support you when you win, who discourage you from chasing your dreams and going big, these people are not your friends. They are not on your team. When they see you thriving, they won’t like it, and they’ll have a long list of reasons why they don’t like you. And don’t sweat that too much. The truth is, deep down, they don’t even like themselves.

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