6 Things Narcissists Do When You Go No Contact

It’s as if you can hardly catch your breath when they’re around. Suddenly, they start showing up at your house or appearing at your workplace. They seem to be engaging with everyone you know, making it nearly impossible to escape their presence. They may persistently call or incessantly send text messages. Moreover, they will amplify their negative behaviors, such as manipulating situations, projecting their faults onto others, denying responsibility, deflecting blame, and lying. These behaviors, which are already typical of narcissists, have now become magnified. It’s important to remember that narcissists have a black-and-white mindset—they see others as either being for them or against them. This mindset contributes to their escalated tactics. You will likely notice a significant increase in their forcefulness and persistence.

The third action they are likely to take when you establish no contact is the initiation of a smear campaign.

which typically occurs during the discard phase. They will escalate their efforts in triangulation, meaning they will enlist the support of others, often referred to as “flying monkeys.” They will strategically communicate with people you know, aiming to make you feel excluded, isolated, and punished for cutting off contact. Their objective is to make you believe that they are thriving while you have made a grave mistake by severing ties with them. They will attempt to rally everyone in your social circle against you, creating an atmosphere where everyone aligns with them.

Their tactics may involve portraying you as an unstable or malicious party or even insinuating that you are a narcissist. They will use these tactics to divide and conquer, isolating you, manipulating situations, engaging in triangulation, and launching the smear campaign. All of these actions contribute to the third point, involving triangulation, smear campaigns, and the mobilization of flying monkeys against you. If any of you have witnessed or experienced this phenomenon, please share your experiences, as I’m certain many of you have encountered it before.