In their minds, if they can leave you shattered and sprawled on the floor in tears, you’ll be utterly incapable of moving forward or erasing their memory. They believe that you will remain, figuratively, in the same place they left you, eagerly awaiting their return. Their goal is to stifle your healing, inhibit your personal growth, and deny you the opportunity to reclaim your personal power. They are acutely aware that if you regain your strength and self-assurance, you will undoubtedly move forward with your life. However, they can’t bear the thought of being left behind, of being rendered inconsequential.
This stems from their own inability to heal or self-actualize. They are profoundly disconnected from themselves, almost waging a war against their very essence. They refuse to confront the trauma buried deep within them, and they’ve erected formidable emotional walls as their coping mechanism. Consequently, they resist introspection and self-awareness, which is why traditional therapy often proves ineffective for them. Their walls are not only high; they are virtually impenetrable. Even a trained therapist or counselor often struggles to surmount these defenses. This lack of self-awareness means they remain trapped in a perpetual cycle, unable to escape their own destructive behavior.
Their trauma, often rooted in their childhood experiences, went unaddressed and unacknowledged. They lacked the guidance or support to process and make sense of it all. Their survival strategy was simple: suppress and disconnect. They’ve grown so accustomed to suppressing their emotions and disconnecting from their true selves that the mere thought of turning inward is terrifying. Hence their aversion to change, their disinclination to improve, and their refusal to view their circumstances differently. They are content in their state of disconnection, which is a stark contrast to the journey of self-awareness, self-actualization, and healing that many of us embark on.
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