There is no clearer knowledge of what it requires to move over one’s existence to another. And they have no idea that their children live on their own. They are unable to link all of their acts to a result due to a lack of empathy. Anything that goes wrong has nothing to do with them. Anything that goes wrong with their life is due to circumstances and other people. Every achievement, whether it comes as a consequence of their decisions or someone else’s — such as their child’s — is focused solely on their own merits.
Why do they disregard their children’s accomplishments?
Another choice for parents is to disregard their child’s achievement. They would behave as though it never was, particularly if they don’t see any value from it (What’s in it for me?). Since admitting it will imply relinquishing power. They know which buttons to press as the child’s parent to keep power.
They would either neglect or sabotage their child’s progress if they do not see a clear benefit from it.
The narcissist’s attitude is particularly harmful since it impairs the child’s capacity to benefit through sincere input. They never know if what they do is good or evil, right or wrong, because “positive” and “poor” are twisted and exploited for various purposes and desires. The last thing an infant knows is how to cater to their selfish parents’ desires.
They just don’t know how to motivate themselves because of their impaired capacity to benefit from criticism, because all they’ve ever known is how to cater to everyone else’s priorities. This, in fact, increases reliance on the same individuals who caused it. Instead of achieving stability, the now-adult infant is stuck in an abusive partnership, which will last long beyond the parents’ senior years, if not until their demise. In certain cases, this is unconsciously satisfying the parent’s need for lifelong power and reliance.
How do narcissists keep their children under their control?
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