All the things I just mentioned can greatly lower your self-esteem, and the lower your self-esteem is the more likely you are probably going to please the narcissist and therefore a much better source of supply. To them, this says that you’re going to be very easily controlled you’ve been in bad relationships before so, naturally, you might be prone to do this again, maybe they’ll learn that you can’t depend on your parents, maybe there’s an issue there. So, you won’t leave and run off to your parents’ house, maybe you don’t have many friends. You’re already isolated they don’t have to do that, you’re just easy for them to abuse they’re not going to have to put a whole lot of work into kind of break your spirit because probably it’s already kind of broken.
2 Someone who is very dependable “Good old reliable”
they want somebody who is extremely dependable this one is pretty obvious, they want someone that they can depend on for multiple things they want someone whom they can depend on for money, sex attention. Sometimes when they can’t get all of that from one person this is where you’re going to start having more than one, and this is why so many times there are different sources of supply because only one of them is good for the money and only one of them they really enjoy the sex with, and one person gives them more attention than the others. But they want you to be very dependable especially by way of having your own home, a good job, probably a car.
Dependable people are usually helpers, again this is the very nature of being an empathic person even more interestingly people who are dependable and empathic kind of have this I know I do they have this little bit of like perfectionism in them. they want to help but they want to help quote-unquote perfectly. And I’m going to use myself as an example because I’ve just said who this is me, my narcissists never seemed to have any money. He’d make sure that he would tell me this but never actually ask or anything so, that when I helped over abundantly, he could and then I could get mad when I got nothing back, he could be sure to remind me that he never actually asked for anything, but more than that; like I say he’d make sure that he’d tell me that he didn’t have any money but never asked for anything. He knew I was dependable and he knew I would jump in to help, I’m dependable, I’m a helper, I would be there to save the day.
How Narcissists Keep You From Moving On – the Narcissists Last Lie
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