The Power of Our Emotions
When you love, hate, or fear a Narcissist, all you do is make them feel relevant. You provide them with the validation they crave and allow them to have an impact on your life. By doing so, you grant the Narcissist power over you. As I always say, if a Narcissist can control your emotions, they can control you. However, the ultimate power to change this still lies in your hands. When you walk away from a Narcissist, ignore them, abandon them, or become emotionally detached, it shatters them. They want you to care; they want to know they can affect you in some way. Thus, when you make it clear that they mean nothing to you or live as though they do not exist, it deeply hurts them. They rely on others to find happiness, boost their ego, and feel better about themselves. This is why breaking our spirit and affecting our self-esteem is so crucial. If they can break us enough, we won’t realize how much they truly need us or how important and powerful we really are. The Narcissist gaslights us into thinking that we are inferior to them when, in reality, we are so much more. We possess the ability to find happiness within ourselves and to love ourselves for who we truly are. We have the capacity to address any shame, hurt, or fear inside us, whereas the Narcissist does not.
How Narcissists Give Others Their Power
Narcissists seek externally what they lack
internally. They avoid self-reflection and their true selves. That’s why they rely on others to find happiness and escape their shame and fear. They despise the fact that they need us more than we need them. They try their best to make themselves relevant. They won’t settle for merely getting you emotionally attached and dependent on them; if they can make you financially dependent or dependent in any other way, they will. It’s all about gaining control and feeling relevant. However, because they need us to feel in control, serve them, validate them, appease them, or entertain them, we are the ones with the real power. When we stop caring about them or walk away, the reality of the Narcissist’s powerlessness is revealed.
Conclusion
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