Number two is when you take a narcissist by surprise. Narcissists like predictability because predictability makes it easy for them to control you. That’s why they are so calculated, and that’s why they know if they say something specific in particular, it will elicit a specific and interconnected associated reaction from you. So they know how to make you feel angry. They know how to make you feel sad, which is why they know what you are going to do if they are going to act a certain way. But if you take them by surprise, if you do something at the last moment and they can’t really read you, they can’t really guess you. It shocks them because when things happen in the moment, when you do something that they are not prepared for, they are at risk of being exposed. A narcissist doesn’t want to be exposed, and at the last moment, if you present an argument or if you hold your cool, if you do not react, that debilitates the narcissist because they do not have the tools to deal with it. And that is when the narcissist is shaken to their core because they do not know how to deal with the situation. Since there is no predictability, there is no control.
Number three: when you discard and the tables get flipped on them, they lose their minds. Narcissists don’t want to be ignored; they don’t want to be discarded. They have to be the ones to throw you away as an object. But if you are the one who discarded the narcissist, congratulations. You gave the narcissist their biggest punishment and injury. A narcissist cannot accept the fact that they were taken for granted and that their existence was so small. It mattered so little to you that you just left them. It makes them really, again, question their worth, their omnipotence, because they like to believe that they are all powerful, they’re impenetrable, and they are immune. But your act of leaving them is what sets them off. And that is why they try to hoover you, not because they want to change or want to win your love back. They want to win their supply back. They want to satisfy themselves that they are not as weak as your leaving made them feel. It is why, if you have already left the narcissist and they are hovering over you, do not give them any chance. Do not make the mistake because you have done the right thing. And if they are promising things, if you are seeing the change in them that you always wanted to see, it is a confirmation that they are trying to please you just to bring you back. They have been seriously and devastatingly injured in their ego. So keep moving on and don’t look back.
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