The next one is, “Look at the hurt you cause when you say no.” This often involves, say, a performance. They point at their faces as they weep. They walk around with their knuckles on the floor, as if to say, You’ve ruined my life.The world might as well end right now, and on and on it goes.
The things that trigger that kind of behavior could be something as simple as a disagreement, a difference of opinion, or a different preference. When there’s gaslighting involved, it could be that the victim is sticking to their own experience, their own version of reality, and what the narcissist is trying to do is undermine them by showing how hurt and wounded they are so that someone else would see it differently, which leads me onto the next one.
When Will a Narcissist Leave You?
Give me what I want, or I’ll suffer and it’ll be all your fault. This could include exaggerated illnesses or threats to harm themselves, but in any case, it involves shifting responsibility for their well-being, mindset, happiness, or whatever onto others.The pain that I am in Right night. proves and justifies how righteous and normal I am. And when it comes to the victim, if the victim has any self-respect or dignity or pays any attention to their own or anyone else’s needs, if they show any kind of autonomy at all, it’s “Look at the pain you’re causing me by doing that,” says the narcissist.It triggers all manner of distress in them. And the common excuse that’s often accompanied by this are things like, “It’s not my fault; it’s my anxiety.” It’s like the victim is responsible for easing their anxiety.
Personality Disorder.
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