5 Warning Signs To Recognize A Narcissist

When the narcissist talks about their ex-partners, you will hear many words like “unstable”, “crazy”, “bad in their skin”, “bipolar”, etc. They will regale you with stories of everything they endured in the past, always the hero or the victim, and never at fault for the unpredictable, cruel, and irrational behavior in their past relationships.Descending and speaking ill of their exes serves several purposes. First, it is an inexpensive way to develop a relationship. Essentially, they are telling you, you are better and that you feel safe they want someone to like you after all they’ve been through.It also creates pity for the narcissist for what they have been through, which deters the reality of the situation, that most of what they disclose may be completely untrue, and that they can tell you how the ex has behaved, they often completely ignore the context of the situation which pushes them to drive anyone who has a relationship with them to the brink of insanity. When one is sufficiently exposed, the constant manipulation and distorted reality created by the narcissist can lead almost everyone, even the healthiest minds, to react strongly, perhaps even in a totally unusual way? In fact, this is what the narcissist who enjoys what is happening.Finally, talking about the things their exes have done in a negative way may be a way of warning you not to do the same, lest you join the list of undesirables. The flip side of the coin is that they also often have exes who are still in their lives as “friends,” whom you may end up beginning to suspect – and rightly so. The narcissist hates to give up a good source of admiration, sex, money, attention, etc., but they are also often the only ones who can be trusted. So they continue to manipulate and chain those who have been able to free themselves in the past. If the two of you have a fight, break up, take a break, etc., don’t be surprised to learn that they have contacted/seen one of their exes for you without blinking an eye. That’s why they’re there.