Learn how to differentiate a person’s behavior and how to deal with negative behaviors.
Our beliefs determine our behavior. Today, most of us agree with this. How our thought process is developed is a truly complex subject. It can be said that the process evolves according to several internal and external factors. We develop a variety of behaviors, both positive and negative. People who go through difficult situations impact their thought processes. This influences a person’s behavior.
Learning to differentiate a person’s behavior:
We believe that a person is greater than the sum of his parts. We also believe that pain is often expressed as negative behavior. It is important to understand that ignoring the whole person is not the solution. Rather, develop your inner strength by ignoring the behavior while doing something positive for the person – smiling, positive energy, etc. – that will help the person feel better.
Here are 7 negative behaviors of people you need to ignore and how you can help them:
Human beings have a talent for drama. We have a talent for drama because drama is all around us – television, magazines, movies, news, radio, the Internet… no matter where it is sold, the drama is likely to be present.
With this overwhelming presence of drama being depicted, people literally become addicted to it. This dramatic behavior manifests itself in different ways in different places. You have probably encountered one of the following situations:
Colleagues playing the blame game
A friend who loves to chat
The boss who belittles employees
Regardless of the source or severity, dramatic behavior is extremely negative. Instead of adhering to this behavior when it is directed at you, act confidently and calmly. The stronger the behavior, the more relaxed and positive you should be.
Set an example by communicating and expressing yourself peacefully. Don’t let the drama have a negative impact on the person you know you are.
- Be put down
Only one person knows your abilities and what you can achieve: you. Any behavior directed against you that aims to lower your abilities and what you want to achieve must be fought to the maximum.
Denying or opposing your ambition through reprehensible behavior should be unacceptable. Never allow the negative and unfounded assertions of others to limit your thinking and approach to your ambitions, goals, and dreams.
This behavior manifests itself in the opinions, assumptions, and other refractory words and actions of others about something you are trying to accomplish. But never accept this behavior.
Maybe you have been in this situation. It is important to look beyond this behavior and act confidently and positively despite it. Not only will you notice that your confidence is strengthened, but the perpetrator will also change his or her behavior.
Some people are always looking for others they can use to advance their goal, whatever it may be, by whatever means possible. This is manipulative behavior.
People who try to manipulate often do so by playing on other people’s emotions. It’s sad, but this behavior exists.
There is no easy way to detect this behavior, but one way is to look at the person’s history. Have you caught him or her lying? Does he or she have a negative attitude? Has he or she spread rumors or bad things about someone? Does he or she behave in ways that are primarily individualistic?
Typically, people who exhibit manipulative behavior display these and other “red flags” that might reveal their ability to manipulate. These individuals also have a selfish tendency, thinking they are smarter and more cunning than anyone else.
Be aware of manipulative behavior by being vigilant in your relationships with others. Remain positive and confident while sending positivity and encouragement to these types of individuals. This could make the difference in changing their perspective with their behavior.
- What characterizes stubborn behavior?
- Refusing to listen to the opinions of others ;
- Being convinced that your ideas or desires are the most important;
- Refusing to change.
We all display stubborn behavior. However, some people display this behavior to a degree far beyond the norm.
As with most other behavioral traits, stubbornness is clear in the first negative experiences. Stubbornness may result from parental dispositions, breaches of trust, and other instabilities throughout childhood.
Forget about the unfortunate circumstances that trigger the behavior. Stubbornness is difficult to manage and takes many forms. You may have a co-worker who refuses to listen, a parent who is always judgmental, or others who refuse to give you the benefit of the doubt.
The solution is simply to be yourself around these individuals while directing positivity (in whatever form) toward them. Above all, don’t react with your own stubborn behavior. Rather, show that you are a trustworthy, compassionate, and understanding person who appreciates the positive aspects that concern them.
Impatience can be defined as (1) irritable behavior resulting from delays or (2) a compelling need for change and excitement. The onset of impatient behavior is often related to someone’s goals; specifically, anything that hinders or aggravates the person is actively pursuing those goals. These goals can range from being ahead at work by driving or getting that promotion at work.
As with stubbornness, we all are impatient. However, some people are extremely impatient. These people hate being held back anytime, anywhere, for almost any reason.
Impatience is a trait that develops from early negative experiences, a lack of understanding of self and others, and a persistent sense of insecurity. Early negative experiences often occur during childhood. Most times, the parents prevented the child from having a normal social experience, making the child feel like he or she had “missed out”.
When dealing with an impatient person, it is important to understand how they “tickle”. For example, these people prefer to be in control. When they are not in control, they get angry, annoyed, and frustrated. The best way to manage behavior is to be polite but direct. Don’t beat around the bush with impatient people; this will get you nowhere.
Be direct with impatient people, but do so confidently while standing up for yourself. Have you ever heard the term “firm but fair?”. It applies to dealing with impatience.
Annoyance is the state of mind when something (or someone) irritates or angers you. Being irritated or angry by someone also causes the upset person to be distracted, which only adds to the annoyance factor; increasing the possibility of a difficult exchange. In this way, annoyance behavior is a double-edged sword.
Whether a behavior is annoying is often a matter of perspective. Some people will find a certain behavior annoying while others will not. Do you have one or more “pet peeves”? Well, most people don’t react the same way when they encounter these behaviors. Annoying behavior is very subjective, which makes sense because the person has absolutely no idea that their behavior is annoying in most cases.
The best way to deal with any behavior that annoys you is simply to control your emotions. Take a deep breath, let it out slowly, and focus on normal breathing. Understand that the person is not directing you to the behavior.
You can also practice using a word to remember it until the desire to respond passes. For example, relax your body, close your eyes, and think of the word “calm. Repeat this word, imagining a calm flow through your body from head to toe.
Sometimes you may need to defend yourself. Of course, do this privately and politely, but be firm and direct. Show your appreciation for the person, even before the person agrees to change their behavior. This will increase the likelihood that the behavior will change – at least around you!
Last but not least, our own internal criticism. Just as the six behavioral characteristics of the others above do not define them, your internal critique does not define you.
What you consider being defects are marks of individuality. Many people who are considered the most beautiful, richest and most privileged people on this planet are incredibly lonely and depressed. Why are they depressed? It’s simple – they’re always their worst critic despite these “advantages”. Perfectionism is a myth; there is nothing perfect about it – and that includes us.
Although the seven behaviors above can be difficult to face, it is crucial that you take care of yourself, ignore negative thoughts, and accept yourself for who you are.
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