My Hypersensitivity Ruins My Life

This hyper-emotion is hypersensitivity results from several psychic processes.

Hypersensitivity and/or hyper-emotivity

Hypersensitivity is a term that is often used, sometimes incorrectly.

I read some articles on this site that mix vulnerability and all beliefs to talk about hypersensitivity. And contrary to what I sometimes read, hypersensitivity is not a strength at all.

Emotional hypersensitivity is well defined by a disabling reaction.

Hypersensitivity is not a disease but a trait of character that manifests itself by extreme sensitivity to the world around it. For a hypersensitive person, everything touches him, the misfortune of some, the misfortune of others. Everything either makes him happy or makes him sad. It is a real emotional sponge.

Do not confuse the depressive state of hypersensitivity. One can be fragile/vulnerable, depressive without being a hypersensitive person. Depressive disorder can show similarities, especially in emotional outbursts, but it is not the same thing at all.

For the depressed person cannot rejoice in the happiness of others, whereas the hypersensitive person can.

In the hypersensitive person, positive or negative emotions are multiplied tenfold, and that’s the problem. They react strongly to external situations if only by the sight of a demonstration followed by CRS, where they will strongly feel within them fear, violence,… or in a gift they did not expect, the person will quickly be emotionally overwhelmed.

Whatever the situation, sad or happy, triggers strong stimuli in them, much more than normal.

Hypersensitive often felt responsible when they feel unable to cope with a situation.

Behavioral Manifestations

  • Difficulty in the unknown’s face
  • Fear of conflict
  • The tendency to be easily intimidated by tone, or a threatening attitude
  • High empathy: the tendency to side with the weakest systematically
  • The tendency to emotional dependence
  • Hypersensitivity to reproach and criticism
  • Great awareness of time passing, of missed acts, of losses
  • Attachment can be very time-consuming, but very robust once installed.

Causes: Where does hypersensitivity come from?

This personality trait often comes from education. It can be something that happened in early childhood or even during the intrauterine period. The child spends nine months being an emotional sponge in the womb. The mother’s emotions impact the fetus.

Childhood behaviors of people with sensitivities

  • To please their parents, to the detriment of their own desires, with great sensitivity to their judgment.
  • Fear of abandonment could lead them to accept injustices on their part.
  • Often, hypersensitive children preferred to spend time with their parents rather than with other children.
  • Parental Anxiety as Perceived by the Child

Finally, hypersensitivity / hyper-emotivity can be generalized, affecting the whole life of the individual, or particular contexts (sentimental, professional, etc…).

Emotional hypersensitivity can appear in particular in:

  • Bad experience in childhood (cited above)
  • Anxiety disorder
  • PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder)
  • ADHD
  • High Potential / Precocity
  • Mood disorders (bipolar disorders,…)

It is important not to automatically associate an anxiety disorder or a depressive disorder with hypersensitivity.

I remind you that negative emotions can be confused, with the difference that hypersensitive feel the same emotional instability in happy situations.

Behavior in childhood as stated above provides a more relevant sign for the identification of a hypersensitivity.

Adapted therapy

To help hypersensitive people, it is preferable to consult a therapist with a multidisciplinary approach using emotional regulation techniques (EFT, TCM, etc.), but also to work on the origin of the causes mentioned above by revisiting the past.

It is therefore important for the practitioner to use techniques such as EMDR to retrieve certain impacting memories from the past. CBT is not always sufficient to treat the causes; it is complementary.

The integrative clinical hypnotherapy that I practice is relevant in this sense.

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