You Won't Believe Why Narcissists Are So Loving To Babies

Number three: the narcissist relishes absolute control over the child’s reality. When the narcissist is the parent, they relish the unique opportunity to shape the child’s perception of the world and, of course, of themselves. This is called grooming. They feed the child narratives that serve their agenda, such as “Mommy is the only one who loves you” or “Daddy always knows what is best for you.” These messages are repeated often enough to condition the child to view the narcissist as their ultimate source of truth and security. This is how they disable the child from thinking independently. This control isn’t love; it’s indoctrination. I’m telling you the story of my childhood: even though both of my parents were narcissists, my mother used to go to great lengths to prove that she loved me more than my father did. The child’s trust is a currency the narcissist spends liberally. Babies and young children cannot discern manipulation or lies. They believe what their parents tell them. A narcissistic parent exploits this innocence, bending the child’s perception to fit their twisted narrative. Unfortunately, they rob them of their innocence. Such children never get to live their childhood worry-free. They’re always anxious because the narcissist builds him or herself up as the hero while subtly alienating the child from other sources of support, such as the other parent or the child’s friends—basically anyone who can help the child understand that their parent is a narcissist or that what they’re going through is called emotional abuse. Through this isolation, the groundwork is laid for future triangulation, where the narcissist will pit the child against anyone who challenges their control. We’re talking about a classic narcissistic mother-son duo, and the daughter-in-law who comes into the family is seen as an enemy.

The Facade of a Caring Parent

Number four: the narcissist is sweet because they want to be seen as a caring parent. They play the role of the doting parent or grandparent. Why? To garner praise and attention from others. They’ll be kind, compassionate, cool, and supportive when someone is watching. When people’s eyes are on them, but behind closed doors, their true nature eventually reveals itself. And you know what that is. That sweetness is also a way to secure loyalty from the child. By showering the baby with affection, they create a bond that makes it harder for the child to recognize the narcissist’s abuse later on. It’s a long-term investment in control disguised as love. Would you believe it took me 23 years to recognize who my mother actually was? A covert narcissist. She had it all covered. But then God had other plans for me.