Today, we’re diving into something incredibly important—something that speaks directly to empaths. But before we get into how the memories of you can destroy a narcissist, let’s first reflect on our own journey as empaths. Many of us start out unaware of the gifts we possess. We move through the world thinking that everyone feels, thinks, and experiences the way we do. It’s not that we’re naive, but rather that we’re simply unaware of the vast differences between us and others. This is how we engage with the world, and we don’t question it until life forces us to.
Over time, as we encounter the toxicity of narcissists, sociopaths, and other emotionally void individuals, we begin to wake up. This is our transformation; it’s as if we experience an inner explosion—a supernova of awareness. We realize, often painfully, that we have something others lack: empathy, a true heart, and the ability to deeply connect. It’s not a weakness; it’s a profound gift. This awakening doesn’t just happen overnight; it’s gradual, and it’s what makes us feel chosen in the world.
There are countless individuals—psychopaths, narcissists, and sociopaths—who operate on a different plane. Unlike us, they lack conscience; they lack a heart. Their existence is driven by self-interest and manipulation. But we are endowed with the ability to care, to feel, and to understand, and it’s precisely this gift that becomes both our strength and, at times, our vulnerability. This is why I address you as a collective—a tribe of those who have been chosen to experience life in this deeply empathetic way. It is not a curse; it’s a blessing, though sometimes a heavy one.
Now let’s get to the heart of the matter: the narcissist. The memories of you destroy them. No, seriously, they do. When we show a narcissist genuine love, affection, and care, we provide them with a source of energy that no one else can offer. We are the supply, the lifeline, the emotional sustenance they crave. And when we withdraw, when we step away, those memories linger in their minds, haunting them. The saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder” is particularly true for narcissists. They might not admit it, but as we distance ourselves, those memories start to surface. They reflect on what they lost and how we made them feel seen in ways no one else could, and it eats at them.
Think about the small, mundane moments that trigger these memories—things they never thought would matter: the way you made them tea, the unique way you cooked their favorite meal, how you arranged their living space with a loving touch. These little gestures, these seemingly insignificant details, have a profound impact. As these memories resurface, they bring with them a torrent of emotions: longing, regret, and a sense of loss that cuts deep.
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