If we can help it, we need to avoid picking up narcissists along the way. We must clearly recognize what we were dealing with in the past. I’m not just talking about the other person and their toxicity, but also addressing anything that is lacking within ourselves. Is it a lack of self-love or self-esteem that made us put up with the previous narcissist? Did growing up with a narcissist cause you to not love yourself or appreciate your own worth? I know that was a personal struggle for me. Growing up with a narcissist who never told me they loved me and tried to destroy any solid relationships I formed outside the home truly made me run from that narcissistic environment into another.
Being love-bombed and not seeing it for what it was because I just wanted to be loved is a painful reality. Without addressing those issues that existed while growing up under a narcissist or after leaving your first narcissistic relationship or partner, you are more likely to end up with another narcissist.
We need to tidy up any unresolved issues. Recognizing the problems with that past relationship and person is crucial, but more importantly, we should address any personal issues before letting others in. No relationship is perfect, I know, but it can be a lot better when you are not dealing with a narcissist.
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