How To Make The Narcissist MISS YOU After Discard

When the discard happens—and trust me, you’ll see the signs—you need to do what you’ve never done before: practice emotional discipline. Let the narcissist have the last word. Don’t defend yourself, don’t defend the relationship, and most importantly, don’t argue or explain your feelings. Instead, simply agree with them.

For example, the narcissist might say, “Every time I let you back into my life, you ruin everything.” Even though you’re thinking, I’ve been doing everything I can to make this work, and you’re the one ruining things, don’t say it. Let them finish their tirade, and then respond with something like, “I understand. I completely agree. I’m glad we had this conversation.”

This response will leave the narcissist puzzled. They’re expecting you to cry, beg, or fight back. Your calm agreement creates a void. They won’t know what you’re thinking or feeling, and that curiosity will gnaw at them. Narcissists thrive on provoking emotional responses because it makes them feel powerful. When you take that away, they feel a loss of control.

They might try to bait you by saying something like, “You never cared about this relationship.” Don’t fall for it. Just respond with, “You’re right. Thank you for the conversation. I wish you the best.” End of discussion.