For the new supply, this relentless blame-shifting is just the beginning of a painful emotional journey. So as you move forward, release any lingering concerns about the narcissist and their new relationships. Let them continue their destructive patterns with their new supply. Your focus should be on safeguarding your own peace and establishing firm boundaries. Do not let them worm their way back into your life, no matter how subtly they may attempt to re-engage.
Reflecting on your own experience with the narcissist, it’s completely natural to feel frustrated and disrespected. You may have often felt emotionally disconnected, questioning the very nature of the relationship and the erratic behaviors you were subjected to. These feelings of frustration are valid and are shared by many who’ve been ensnared in the narcissist’s web.
The core of today’s message is to help you understand the painful dynamics at play between the narcissist and their new supply. Right now, the new supply is walking a precarious tightrope, trapped in a delicate, emotionally charged situation. Their every move is calculated as they tiptoe around the narcissist’s ever-shifting moods. This constant state of tension, of walking on eggshells, is not just a passing phase—it’s their reality.
For those of us who’ve lived with a narcissist, we know firsthand that existing in that relationship wasn’t living at all; it was a constant emotional roller coaster, a toxic cycle of highs and lows. Now, the new supply is in the same boat. They’re tiptoeing around the narcissist’s moods, consumed by an undercurrent of anxiety that never quite lets them go. The narcissist, mourning the loss of what they perceive as their best supply—your unwavering emotional support and unique qualities—lashes out at the new supply. But this anger doesn’t stem solely from their disappointment; it’s a reflection of their inability to process complex emotions in any healthy way.
As a result, the new supply is caught in a whirlwind of frustration, confusion, and heightened anxiety, unsure of how to navigate the emotional chaos they’ve inherited. Here’s where it gets even more insidious: the new supply often finds themselves haunted by thoughts of you. Yes, you! It sounds strange, doesn’t it? Why would they be preoccupied with you when they’re in a relationship with the narcissist? The reason is rooted in the narcissist’s patterns. When they fail to heal, they simply move on from one person to the next without ever truly processing the emotional weight of past relationships.
If you were their great supply, the narcissist will cling to the remnants of that connection, never fully letting go. Rather than addressing the shame, guilt, and pain of their past, they project these unresolved feelings onto the new supply. This creates an anxious, oppressive atmosphere where the new partner feels as though they’re constantly being compared to a ghost from the narcissist’s past—you.
This dynamic doesn’t just cause anxiety; it intensifies it. The new supply begins to internalize the narcissist’s frustrations, experiencing the same emotional turbulence that you once did. But there’s a twist: now, the new supply is under the added pressure of living up to the narcissist’s expectations, which often means becoming you.
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