For your appearance, they will put you in double binds over and over. In my case, when I was in a relationship with somebody that was a narcissist, my hair was really long. I love long hair I know I cut it recently but I love long hair. And that person convinced me to cut it really short, so it was at my shoulder length. He brought me back and said it wasn’t short enough, the same day he said no you guys didn’t cut the hair right it has to be shorter. Cut it even shorter only to go out when everyone’s commenting on my hair and how different I look and whatever, his remark was, and this was literally the day we came home from the haircut, his remark was, I think women look more feminine and attractive with long hair.
My point is that they will sabotage how you look because they don’t want the focus to be on you, has to be on them. How do you deal with that? what do you do if you’re in a relationship with somebody like that? if You’re reading this article, that’s a good thing because you’re aware of it now. What you have to do once again, and it’s kind of like a central thing to this article, but it’s basically you recognize that you’re living for somebody that does not have your best interests at heart. So, focus on yourself. Yes, it’s going to feel awkward in the beginning because you’ve probably been taught that focusing on yourself is selfish, it’s not, it’s healthy. So, focus a little on yourself and get in touch with what’s important to you is exercise important. are you living in accord with things that are important to you? are you making time for things that are important to you? Or have you stopped doing them because somebody else doesn’t like them? If that’s the case, recognize it and take small steps to get back to the things that are important to you. Otherwise, you’re allowing somebody to erase you just because it threatens their false reality.
4 something that narcissists hate normal people love is when they’re significant other or a family member a child, anyone is successful
If they have a measure of success in anything they do, we’re proud of them. It feels good to see our family members excel in something or do something well or learn something at or overcome something, we’re proud of them. Not a narcissist, not unless they could take credit for it. If they can take credit for it, then they’ll be happy for you, but if they can’t they will do everything to sabotage what you work hard to accomplish, especially if you’re successful at it. Why? Once again, your success is a threat to the fact that they are superior, they’re above everyone, everyone is beneath them and kind of the scum of the earth so, how dare you? Prove that you can do something that they can’t or you could do something better. They have to squash that once again to maintain the status quo of their being superior. what do you do?
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