Number 3: They Make You Feel Like You’re Leaving Your Comfort Zone.
We tend to stick with what feels familiar, even if it’s harmful or traumatic. It’s just human nature. That’s why trauma bonding happens so often in relationships with narcissists. Think about it. Have you ever felt like you’re having the same argument over and over? It’s toxic, sure, but it also feels familiar. Somehow, that familiarity can be oddly comforting.
That’s what a trauma bond does: it keeps you stuck in a toxic cycle, making it much harder for you to leave the narcissist, even when you know it’s not good for you. Trauma bonding has a way of feeling deeply instinctive. It’s as if you’re drawn to the narcissistic relationship because it feels familiar, almost like the dynamic you might have had with an invalidating parent, for example. You might catch yourself thinking, “I enjoy being in this relationship because it reminds me of my mom, who keeps invalidating my feelings. Even though I can’t really explain why, our dynamic feels almost magical and comforting.
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That’s the tricky part. In trauma-bonded relationships, that familiarity can feel oddly comforting. Think about going back to your hometown. Even if you never want to move back because of a traumatic experience, there’s something comforting about knowing the streets, the landmarks, and the vibe of the place. Relationships with a narcissist can feel the same way; you’re drawn to what feels familiar, and the narcissist will use that to their advantage.
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