Why Narcissistic Abuse Victims Avoid Cleaning and Tidying Up

Experiencing narcissistic abuse can hurt your self-worth, making it hard to feel motivated to take care of yourself, even when it comes to cleaning. As therapist Brené Brown says, “You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are also worthy of love and belonging.” Self-care isn’t just about cleaning; it’s about recognizing that you deserve a healthy and happy space. Little actions can help you reclaim that sense of worth. You matter and deserve to live in a place that feels good for you.

Number nine: Fear of taking ownership

Many victims shy away from cleaning after experiencing narcissistic abuse because it feels like a huge responsibility. Cleaning means taking ownership of your space, which can be intimidating when your feelings and boundaries have been constantly undermined. As Dr. Judith Orloff, a psychiatrist, says, “Healing from emotional trauma requires reclaiming your space and your sense of self.” It’s not just about dust and clutter—it’s about stepping back into your power.