When you enter a relationship with a narcissist, remember that it’s never about you. It’s solely about what you offer and the feeling they derive from it. So, when they discard you and find a new source of supply, their fear of missing out on something better consumes them. When another, more desirable supply becomes available, they are willing to risk everything to pursue it, even cheating on their spouse. Since they don’t value their partner’s feelings, nothing stops them from acting on their impulses. For instance, they might exchange numbers with someone they meet casually, even at a hair salon or garage.
Narcissists often use smear campaigns to ruin your life. They initially idolize you to the world before turning against you. We may feel secure in a relationship with a narcissist because they make us feel that way. It’s difficult to explain to others what it’s like to be a victim of narcissistic abuse. Despite being devalued by our partner, we often cling to a false sense of security because they still need our attention. We are oblivious to the danger because narcissists skillfully present a façade of potential. They exploit our qualities—like being people pleasers or fixers—to sustain their charisma.
The narcissist’s selfish acts are designed to tarnish your reputation and image. Their emotions don’t factor into their decisions; it’s all about maintaining their perfect social media image and appearing as the apple of everyone’s eye. Narcissists smear your character to their “flying monkeys” (people who blindly support them) because they fear facing consequences or navigating the breakup process. They secretly orchestrate smear campaigns, dropping cryptic hints like, “This is going to be hard; my family loves you,” while secretly planning to destroy your reputation.
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No aspect of life is off-limits for a narcissist. They see people as mere objects. Even though they hate going through the breakup process, their insatiable desires and need for a new supply compel them. They hope the new supply will cure their emptiness. If we could see a narcissist’s true nature, we’d be repulsed. While everyone has flaws, narcissists lack empathy—an essential human quality. They know they’re different and wear a mask to maintain their facade. When they discard someone, they do it in a way that makes them look good while ruining their ex’s reputation.
As narcissists seek new supply, they experience anxiety because they must construct another false narrative to defame their former partner. They seek approval from their support system, the flying monkeys, and a stable source of supply. Narcissists are rarely willing to confess their sins or acknowledge the trauma they’ve caused. Apologies and repentance are beyond their capacity.
The thought of being discarded is not something the narcissist desires, yet they do it covertly. There are signs to watch out for, though hindsight often reveals how calculated and malevolent they were. They never truly consider your feelings; they only care about creating a new narrative. They project their inner voices and destructive tendencies onto others.
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We must pray for narcissists because they don’t realize who or what they are following. After securing a new supply, they sever all ties with you, often ensuring their flying monkeys align with their narrative. Disentangling from you is an anxious process for them, which is why many narcissists rely on medication. Imagine avoiding yourself because your foundation is rotten. Narcissists feed off negativity and seek validation, but it’s all a facade.
It’s important to learn self-reliance and break the cycle of emotional dependence. Once you find joy in yourself, you won’t fear missing out or seek validation from others. Narcissists thrive on manipulation, lies, and triangulation. Their behavior during the discard phase reveals their true nature. If you’re waiting for a narcissist to return, it’s essential to recognize they will only disrespect you further. You’re not their solution—just a means to an end.
Stay vigilant against hoovering attempts, even years after the discard. Narcissists often assume time makes their victims vulnerable, but maintaining no contact is vital. Lean on prayer and personal strength to combat the anxiety they cause. Narcissists rely on others for validation, but their smiles and happiness are a hollow act. They showcase their lives on social media to feed their insatiable need for attention.
It’s critical to protect yourself from narcissists and their destructive tendencies. Focus on building a strong relationship with yourself and, if you’re spiritual, with God. Emotional independence is key to avoiding another toxic relationship.
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