When You Stop Being Available, Everything Changes – Carl Jung
So I ask you now, looking into your eyes: how long will you continue to be controlled by the emotions of others? How long will you react like a puppet every time someone pokes your wound? Maybe it’s time to cut those strings, to withdraw, to become a mystery. Because when you stop being available, everything changes.
You have been taught to always be present, to respond quickly, to please, to say “yes” even when you wanted to say “no.” Since childhood, you have been conditioned to believe that your worth lies in how available you are to others. But here’s a truth that perhaps no one has told you: this excessive availability is not a virtue; it is a prison. As long as you continue to think that you need to be accessible all the time—emotionally or otherwise—you will be manipulated, drained, and forgotten as soon as you are no longer useful.
Do you know why? Because being always available makes you seem predictable, and everything that is predictable becomes a tool. People start to use you as an emotional emergency button; they press it when they want attention, relief, validation, and then put you back on the shelf. But you don’t realize this because you are trapped in an illusion that being present for everyone will make someone be present for you. But it doesn’t work that way.
Carl Jung spoke about the persona, this mask we wear to be accepted, loved, recognized. It is exactly this mask that keeps you overly available. You say it’s okay when you are suffocating. You respond to messages immediately, even when you are exhausted. You explain yourself, justify yourself, defend yourself, as if you owe something to the world. But the truth is that the more you place yourself at the center of others’ stage, the more you disappear from your own. Being available all the time is a subtle form of self-abandonment. It is a disguised way of seeking approval, avoiding rejection, trying to control the image others have of you.
But this control comes at a price, and the price is your peace. It is your vital energy being distributed as if it were infinite, when in fact it is limited—very limited. People who want you available all the time do not want you; they want what you provide: validation, company, distraction, emotional comfort.
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