The narcissist would also deny to themselves and others that they were the ones who pushed you away and that something therefore must be wrong with you. And that will be their excuse to reach out to you to make sure that you are OK. They would spread this lie to family and friends, hoping someone would be able to put them in contact with you or let you know about their feigned concern for you. This is to provoke you to reach out to them to clarify or provide closure, but any conversation with a narcissist is a trap. They may also use this opportunity to give one of their fake general apologies. Like, whatever it is they did, they are sorry. Or they are sorry that you feel the way that you feel etc.
The narcissist just needs to have a way of communicating with you so that they can get into your head again and make you feel guilty or doubt yourself. This is all done to try to wheel you back in, only to hurt you and later discard you. Because that is what a narcissist wants. They want to be the ones in control. They want to be the ones calling the shots. So, if you ever take back a narcissist after you discarded them or went no contact, you will be later discarded and blocked.
It is important to understand that a narcissist can hate you and be angry with you but still beg for you to comeback and still smile in your face while pretending everything is OK. These people are delusional, persistent and dangerous. In the narcissist’s mind, it’s all about how dare you do this to them. How dare you walk away from them? How dare you block or hide from them? So, they are only thinking about getting you back so that they can punish you.
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