In some ways, their approach may seem infantile, resembling tactics one might see on an elementary school playground. However, their motivations are far more severe and their tactics much more effective as they strive for complete control over their surroundings. For a narcissist, winning people over and attaining power over others is the core motivator. Once they achieve this, it only further validates their superiority complex.
But what can you do if you find yourself on the receiving end of their manipulations? As we already know, narcissists thrive on the flying Monkey dynamic. The first thing you need to do is give yourself ample time to process the emotions that come with such a situation. When a narcissist poisons the minds of people once close to you with unfounded allegations against you, it is natural to feel grief and hurt.
You may begin to feel like everyone is suddenly slipping away from your grasp, and it may seem like people are avoiding you by not returning your calls or canceling plans with you. It is crucial to prioritize your well-being and seek support from trusted friends, family, or even a therapist to tackle the mental toll. Lastly, it is essential to stand your ground and counter their baseless accusations with reasonable evidence and communication with the affected individuals.
Take this example: during a family event, the kind-hearted brother was taken aback by the cold and detached attitude everyone exhibited towards him. He couldn’t fathom the reason behind their behavior and began to dissect his actions, wondering if he had inadvertently offended anyone. He was confused and perplexed, wondering if he had missed a death anniversary or something else. He couldn’t make sense of it.
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