What Does a Narcissist Feel When You Stop Chasing Them (Hint: Spiritual Devastation)

When you don’t give in, the narcissist usually keeps chasing you until they flip the situation and get your attention.
This is when things get crazy.

Once they get you, their punishment begins.
They start ignoring you, devaluing you, putting you down—doing things you never thought they would do.
Their behavior changes, and you wonder, “What did I do for them to act like this? Who is this person? They wanted me so badly. Was that all a lie?”

They hurt you for making them try so hard.
They give it back to you as revenge.
It’s revenge.

This is where many strong-willed survivors get trapped.
They get caught up trying to solve a broken puzzle, one that’s missing pieces.
I call this role reversal.
They were chasing you, but now they make you chase them.
However, here’s the good news.

Becoming Untouchable

When you fully stop going after them or acknowledging them, you don’t give in—you become untouchable.
This is a narcissist’s true kryptonite.

Without your reactions to feed on, the narcissist’s tricks lose their power, and you start seeing the relationship for what it really is: a power struggle, not love.

Without the mask, the narcissist’s charm fades, exposing the emptiness or ugliness beneath.
Many people have told me, “When I stopped caring, they became boring. All their stories were lies. That confidence was fake, and I saw it.”