Say THIS When a Narcissist Disrespects You
I’m going to be straight with you: more often than not, it’s going to be in your best interest, as I said, to simply not engage whatsoever. Instead, remove yourself if you’re able; do so quietly and stay under the radar. Once you get away, stay away for good. But if for any reason that’s not an option for you, or if you’re not quite ready, willing, or able to distance yourself completely and you’re tired of being pushed around by the toxic bully, then here’s what you need to know when it comes to responding to a narcissist’s disrespect for maximum effect and impact.
Remember, what matters is not so much what you say, but how you say it. It’s about the posture you embody, the energy you carry, the frequency with which you calibrate—in other words, your emotional intelligence, your sense of self-worth, and your confidence. That matters more than anything else. With that in mind, the first thing you want to do when sending the narcissist a crystal-clear message is to leave all emotion out of it—and I do mean all. I know that’s not easy; it’s easier said than done, especially when you’re hurting and especially when you have yet to begin your personal healing and recovery work. Regardless, know that that is the goal: zero display of emotion, or as close to it as you can get.
Do not, under any circumstances, allow yourself to react to their provocations. You want to put your business hat on and deal with them like it’s a business transaction. No matter who they are, there is no room for emotion if your goal is to communicate in a way that makes them never even think of disrespecting you again. It’s all in the delivery. Friends, you want to find a way to stay calm, cool, and collected, no matter what it takes. Make a conscious effort to focus on your breath, stay in your body, and remain completely non-reactive. In other words, underreact to the best of your ability.
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