If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, it can be very difficult to notice their manipulative tactics, especially in the heat of the moment. Being so close to the conversation often makes it challenging to recognize the subtle ways they control and guide the dialogue to their advantage.
Today, we will analyze a conversation between a man and a cluster B personality female.
In the first conversation, she reacted emotionally, devastated by the idea of him moving out. Narcissists typically respond in two ways when someone establishes boundaries or slows down the relationship. The first is an emotional reaction, as seen in the initial exchange. They might cry, express affection they seldom show, or say what you’ve always wanted to hear—though only when they feel they are losing control.
If their initial strategy (Plan A) fails—like in this case, where DM moved out despite her reaction—they resort to Plan B. This involves treating you as though you never existed, minimizing the significance of the relationship, and often quickly starting a new one. They may flaunt this new relationship on social media, furthering the illusion that the previous relationship was meaningless. The goal of Plan B is to confuse you, making you doubt your decision to set boundaries and blaming yourself for their current behavior.
As we listen to today’s conversation, I encourage you to identify four specific manipulative tactics. If you notice these or any additional tactics, please share your observations and timestamps in the comments.
Manipulative Tactics to Watch For:
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- Self-Entitlement
Narcissists act as though rules don’t apply to them. They show no remorse for unkind or harmful behavior and may even respond dismissively, stunning the victim into questioning their own actions or feelings. - Blame-Shifting
They might acknowledge their behavior but deflect responsibility, saying, “I did this because you didn’t give me what I needed.” This forces the victim to focus on their perceived shortcomings rather than the narcissist’s actions. - Comparison to a New Supply
By comparing you to their new partner (directly or indirectly), they divert attention from their behavior and provoke insecurity, causing you to defend yourself and seek their approval. - Stonewalling
Narcissists condition you to expect less from them. When confronted about their behavior, they become dismissive or angry, shutting down the conversation. However, when the focus shifts to proving your worth or love, they suddenly become receptive, reinforcing the idea that avoiding conflict and focusing on yourself is the only way to maintain harmony.
This analysis sheds light on the dynamics of manipulation within such relationships, helping victims recognize and address these tactics. Let me know if you need further clarifications or refinements!
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