It Wasn’t a Relationship, It Was a Demonic Assignment, That’s Why God Removed Narcissists From You

Let me tell you something most people won’t understand until it’s too late: God’s protection doesn’t always look like peace. Sometimes it looks like hell breaking loose. You begged God to remove your pain, right? To bring you clarity, to deliver you from confusion? Well, He did. He ripped that person right out of your life like a surgeon pulling shrapnel from a bleeding wound, and it hurt like hell. Because you didn’t know that thing you were clinging to was the poison in your system. You thought it was love; it wasn’t. It was an assignment sent to distract, delay, and derail.

God didn’t just remove them because of what they did; He removed them because of what they were sent to do if they stayed. See, God sees behind the curtain; He hears the conversations you weren’t around for; He knows the intentions that haven’t even surfaced yet. So when the narcissist leaves, when the connection explodes, when everything falls apart and you’re left dazed, don’t curse it. Thank God! That was divine interference. He even sent a wrecking ball because your calling was under siege. You wanted peace; you got freedom. It just didn’t come wrapped in comfort; it came through collision.

Trauma Bonds Keep You Chained to Your Abuser

You didn’t love them; you were addicted to them. Yeah, I said it, and it needs to be said more: that wasn’t love; that was a trauma bond. Your nervous system was addicted to the high of the honeymoon and the crash of the chaos. Every time they pulled away, every time they punished you with silence or guilt, you chased harder—not because you were stupid, but because your body thought their attention meant safety. It’s like your soul got hijacked. You kept going back to the same pain, hoping it would finally feel different—that this time they’d get it, that this time they’d see your worth. But that’s not how trauma works. Trauma creates loops; it creates patterns that make pain feel like home and peace feel like a threat. You weren’t in love; you were in survival.

And that’s the trap. The enemy doesn’t just send toxic people; he sends counterfeit healing. He sends what feels familiar so you’ll bond to the wound, not the wisdom. That’s why walking away doesn’t just break your heart; it breaks your programming. And trust me, the break is holy. That snap you feel when you finally cut the cord? That’s heaven clapping. Because God doesn’t just want you to survive it; He wants you to never go back to it again.