Nothing stops a narcissist from exposing their true demonic self when they feel defeated by you. When they feel inferior in comparison and know they can’t bring you down, they become childish, reactive, and quite impulsive, revealing how insecure they are. They resort to playing petty mind games.
1. They Become Obsessed with Proving You Wrong
Why? Because they know you are right. They create a false sense of safety for themselves. Everything you do, they do the opposite. Every move you make, they counter. You are in a constant battle with them, but only in their false reality. In truth, you’re not even engaging, yet they persist.
This obsessive behavior stems from their envy and insecurity. For example, when a narcissist chooses to counter-parent, they are not just trying to prove you wrong but are actively undermining your efforts. If you create structure in your child’s life, they’ll destroy it. If you encourage homework, hygiene, or discipline, they’ll do the opposite to win favor with the child, feeding their fragile ego.
Another example involves intellectual bullying. A cheating narcissist might cite distorted information or pseudo-scientific claims to justify their actions, attempting to gaslight you into doubt.
2. They Become Competitive
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Narcissists are consumed by the spirit of competition. They can’t accept that you are ahead in life or know more than they do. Instead of drawing inspiration from your success, they secretly compare themselves to you and try to one-up you in every possible way.
They may mimic your achievements, replicate your choices, or adopt your style, but they’ll twist the narrative to claim superiority. Even when their attempts are obvious, they deny it, turning it into an opportunity to insult or belittle you.
3. They Launch a Revenge Campaign
When a narcissist feels defeated, they often launch a revenge campaign. This is not merely a smear campaign; it’s a targeted effort to damage your reputation and relationships.
For example, a narcissistic parent might spread lies to alienate you from relatives, while playing the victim to gain sympathy. Their goal is simple: to regain control and punish you for their perceived defeat.
4. They Feign Indifference
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Narcissists might pretend that your absence or actions have no effect on them. They may flaunt material possessions, new relationships, or exaggerated happiness on social media to convey that they’ve “moved on.”
However, their actions are often focused on eliciting a reaction from you, proving their continued dependence on your validation. In reality, their indifference is a mask for their bruised ego.
5. They Exaggerate Their Success
To mask their insecurity, narcissists engage in grandiose displays of success. They’ll boast about being admired, loved, or respected, often exaggerating or fabricating their accomplishments.
This behavior serves two purposes: to hide their shame and to diminish your achievements in comparison. However, a closer look reveals their desperation for external validation and their inability to tolerate criticism.
When dealing with a defeated narcissist, it’s essential to maintain your composure and perspective. Their actions often expose their true nature to others, leaving them more vulnerable than they realize.
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