How To Spot A Narcissist's Baiting Tactics -

Narcissists are natural exploiters, which means they like to see you in a weakened state as they seek advantages. One of their favorite tactics is psychological baiting. Dr. Les Carter explains how their goal is to manipulate you in the process of elevating themselves. But once you can spot their tactics, you can become free from their antics.

Now, let me address a question I’ve been asked many times—one that truly deserves a thoughtful response. People often ask, “When you consider all the traits and behaviors that make up the narcissistic pattern, which one would you say is the clearest indicator of their dysfunction?

It’s an excellent question, and there are certainly plenty of traits to choose from. Narcissists are highly selfish individuals. They exude entitlement, seek to control others, and hide behind the mask of a false self. They crave superiority and validation, often at the expense of others. Yet, if I had to pinpoint one defining characteristic, it would be their willingness to exploit and manipulate others for their personal gain. That, to me, is the most glaring sign that we’re dealing with someone who is deeply troubled and unable—or unwilling—to be a fair or supportive ally in relationships.

One of the most insidious tactics narcissists use to maintain control is called narcissistic baiting. This tactic is specifically designed to provoke you, bringing out the worst in you so they can elevate themselves at your expense. The goal of this manipulation is to invalidate you, make you appear irrational, and undermine your sense of worth.

Here’s the key: narcissists bait you because they want to maintain control and distract attention from their own deficiencies. They know that if they can keep you in a reactive, defensive state, they win. And make no mistake—they’re incredibly skilled at baiting, using a variety of tactics to throw you off balance.

I’ve compiled a list of common narcissistic baiting strategies. While this is not an exhaustive list, it highlights many of the tactics they use to manipulate and provoke others: