How to Outsmart a Narcissist at Their Own Game: 5 Psychological Tricks (That Actually Work)

What to do: Calmly ask for specifics when they make vague accusations or lies.
Why it works: Narcissists hate being pinned down—it exposes their games.

Them: “Everyone thinks you’re a terrible parent.”
You: “Who exactly said that? Can you give me an example?”
(They’ll backtrack or storm off.)
Them: “You’re so selfish!”
You: “What specific action made you feel that way?”
(Cue crickets.)

5. ‘Mirror’ Their Tactics (And Watch Them Unravel)

What to do: Reflect their behavior back to them—neutrally.
Why it works: Narcissists hate seeing their own reflection.

Them (gaslighting): “You’re crazy. I never said that!”
You (calmly): “It’s interesting you’d say that. I have a recording/text where you did.”
Them (playing victim): “You’re always attacking me!”
You (blank stare): “Hmm. I’ll think about that.”
(Then change the subject.)