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After that final conversation, the next step is no contact. This means blocking their phone number, deleting their contact information, unfriending and blocking them on social media—completely cutting them out of your life. Narcissists rely on emotional reactions for their narcissistic supply. By breaking contact, you’re depriving them of that fuel.

Importantly, don’t post anything on social media about the breakup. Avoid sad quotes, heartbroken posts, or vague updates hinting at emotional distress. Narcissists often monitor social media to gauge your feelings. If they see posts like that, they’ll think, Look at how much pain I’ve caused. I’m so powerful. Instead, stay silent. Your silence will make them wonder what you’re thinking and feeling, which they hate.

3. Keep Your Plans Private

Narcissists are skilled at gathering information. They might contact mutual friends or acquaintances to find out how you’re doing. To prevent this, make a list of friends you have in common and ensure you don’t discuss your relationship with them. Even your closest friends can inadvertently reveal details the narcissist can use to manipulate the situation.

For example, a mutual friend might casually say, “Oh, I heard you guys broke up. He seems really worried about you.” This is often a trap. The narcissist may have manipulated that friend to test your reaction. Keep your responses short and neutral, like, “I’m doing great, thanks for asking. How are you?” Then quickly change the subject. This conveys that you’ve moved on without giving them the satisfaction of knowing how you feel.

If you need to talk about your feelings or get support, seek out online support groups, forums, or therapy. These spaces are safer because they’re outside the narcissist’s reach.