When you continually engage in this reasoning, hoping for a breakthrough, you end up caught in their grip. Narcissists thrive on arguments, frustration, and tension because it validates their perception of you. They rationalize, thinking, “You are exactly as unreasonable as I thought you were.”
This dynamic creates a co-dependent dance where they pull the strings, and you react. But what if you decided not to play their game? What if you became unpredictable and baffling to them instead?
Turning the Tables on Narcissists
To stop being controlled, you need to shift your mindset and adjust your behavior. Start with this belief:
“I’m going to love and accept myself for who I am—my strengths, weaknesses, and all that makes me, me.”
Narcissists want you to see only your flaws, but by embracing self-love, you deny them the power to diminish your worth.
Next, cultivate self-respect:
“I don’t need external validation for my worth. My dignity is inherent, and no one has the right to control my well-being.”
Setting Boundaries and Standing Firm
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