On top of this, narcissists engage in a sly form of manipulation known as triangulation, comparing the new supply to you and to others. Imagine the narcissist sitting at the dinner table, watching as the new supply prepares a meal, only to comment, “This doesn’t taste like what [your name] made.” It’s a slap in the face, pushing the new supply into a state of anxiety and self-doubt, trying desperately to live up to an impossible standard.
This isn’t just a difficult situation; it’s an emotional prison. The narcissist’s ongoing comparisons to you feed into the cycle, turning the new supply into an anxious, fearful version of themselves. They begin to second-guess every move they make, even resorting to unhealthy behaviors like stalking or demanding you, driven by insecurity and the narcissist’s persistent manipulation. It’s a nightmare that perpetuates itself, creating a toxic, suffocating atmosphere that leaves both the narcissist and the new supply emotionally drained.
But here’s the kicker: the new supply is not happy. The façade of happiness they may present is just that—a façade. Behind the smiles and perfect moments, they are drowning in anxiety, overwhelmed by the narcissist’s expectations. The narcissist is miserable too, unable to release the past, which is why they continue to manipulate the new supply, trying in vain to recreate the bond they had with you. In the process, both parties remain trapped in a cycle of emotional instability.
You may have caught glimpses of the new supply on social media, and at first glance, they seem to be living a picture-perfect life. But look closer, and you’ll see the cracks—the signs of anxiety of someone desperately trying to fit into shoes that were never meant for them. The narcissist’s past is always hovering over them, pulling the strings and forcing the new supply to mimic behaviors and characteristics that belong to you. Every time they slip, every time they fail to meet the narcissist’s expectations, the narcissist is there to remind them of your idealized version. It’s a game of comparison, and it’s rage from the start.
Now, why is the new supply so desperate to understand you? Why do they stalk your social media, try to find out who you are, and seek to measure themselves against you? It’s simple: they’ve been manipulated into believing that to gain the narcissist’s approval, they must become a reflection of you. But what they don’t realize is that they’re being set up for failure, trapped in the same toxic cycle you once endured. They’re not truly in competition with you; they’re fighting an emotional battle that will never be won.
So who really won here? Is it the narcissist who left you without closure, or is it you who chose to take the narcissist’s flaws as your closure? You are free. You’ve moved on, and you didn’t need the narcissist to provide the answers you were searching for. Sometimes closure doesn’t come from explanations; it comes from realizing that you are better off without someone who cannot offer the emotional stability and support you deserve. The narcissist’s behavior only proves how flawed and self-serving they truly are.
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