Today, we’re diving deep into the post-relationship behavior of narcissists. It’s critical to understand the dynamics that unfold when your relationship with a narcissist ends—whether it’s because you were discarded, reverse discarded, or you made the decision to break free. No matter the circumstances, knowing what’s going on beneath the surface is essential.
When the relationship crumbles, the narcissist quickly seeks out a new supply. At first glance, they seem overjoyed, almost giddy with their fresh partner. They beam with excitement, perhaps basking in the initial thrill of the new connection. But here’s the catch: in their warped reality, you fade into oblivion as though you were never even a part of their life. However, don’t be fooled— that joy is fleeting. If you were the one to cut ties, they might initially chase after you, trying to reclaim your attention. But eventually, the narcissist’s need for constant validation through a new source of supply becomes undeniable. Their emotional survival depends on it; without fresh admiration, they wither.
When they latch onto this new person, a surge of excitement floods their senses. They pedestalize the new supply, viewing them through rose-colored glasses, convinced they’ve found something or someone even better than what they had with you. This infatuation, though, is rarely enduring. Quickly, the narcissist begins to realize this new supply isn’t what they hoped for; it doesn’t offer the same potent emotional nourishment that you once did. They don’t feel the same intensity of validation. Why? The answer lies in deep emotional connections—what some call soul ties. You, as an empath, brought something unique to the table.
Narcissists often believe they are the puppeteers, controlling the dynamics and manipulating their way to satisfaction. But the truth is, you didn’t just give them attention and care because you were coerced; you did it because it’s simply in your nature to love and nurture. You invested heart and soul, treating them with the honesty, loyalty, and kindness that you reserve for people you truly value.
As time goes on, the narcissist becomes accustomed to the emotional comfort you provided. They rely on it and grow dependent on it. So when they transition to this new supply, they expect even more—better, bigger, grander. They think they’ve upgraded their situation, but in reality, they’re stumbling blindly into a cycle of dissatisfaction.
The issue is that narcissists often jump from one relationship to another in a reckless game of monkey branching, convinced each new partner will be the key to their emotional fulfillment. They fail to recognize the real value of what they had with you, focusing instead on the idea that the next person will somehow meet their needs in ways you couldn’t. Sooner or later, the narcissist faces the truth: their new supply doesn’t measure up, the emotional void isn’t filled, and the disappointment hits hard. Frustration surges, and that anger, born from unmet expectations, often spills out onto anyone in their vicinity. The new supply, along with family, friends, or colleagues, can become targets of their rage. They may lash out, projecting their dissatisfaction onto others, unable to process their own feelings of loss.
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