We are talking about how the narcissist grooms a target, meaning how they slowly condition a target to believe certain things and tolerate certain things. It’s a very slow process, so many of us don’t even realize it’s happening, and although the process may be slow, it’s a powerful tactic that they use with the intention of gaining power and control over the target’s perceptions, beliefs, and life. So, if you’ve ever wondered why narcissists are so successful at luring targets into abusive relationships while the victim refuses to leave, today’s article will shed some light on how this happens.
Today, we are talking about the narcissist grooming techniques that they utilize to gain power and control over the target’s life:
1. wearing a fake mask:
First, it’s important to understand that the narcissist presents himself or herself to the target wearing a mask, not a literal mask but a mask that disguises his or her true self; it’s essentially a false and phony persona, and it’s usually in no way authentic or in alignment with the real and true self. They realize that they can utilize this fake and phony persona to influence and charm other people much easier than if they were to present themselves as they truly are, and to a very large degree, they themselves buy into the belief that the false persona they have developed is actually who they are, but eventually it will become painfully obvious to everyone involved, including the narcissists, that they are not who they portray themselves to be. Now, let’s look at the specific tactics that narcissists employ to groom and condition their targets.
2. Love bomb the target:
The first thing they will do is “love bomb” and “mirror” the target, so they will shower the victim with all kinds of flattery and attention. They will usually combine this with something called “mirroring,” where they reflect the exact things you yourself are passionate about, really enjoy, or respect, and because of this, we think we have met our soulmate. Some might say, “Well, how naive of the victim to actually believe someone who manipulated them in this manner.” However, you must understand and remember that the majority of people that narcissists target are empaths, and empaths generally are guilty of projecting how they think and feel onto the rest of the world. These are people who would never dream of doing something this devious, mean-spirited, and manipulative to another human being under any circumstances, so usually the victim in this scenario has no clue what is actually happening because doing anything remotely close to this is so far from who they are that they are unaware that people in their lives could actually be capable of
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