Relationships, like everything else, are a game to the narcissist. From winning the love and commitment of someone, to then emotionally and even physically abusing them, only later to discard them, has been the reality for so many.
Today, however, is all about the Discard Phase and three distinct ways a narcissist may discard someone. Although, in the mind of the narcissist, the discard may not always be permanent, those on the receiving end are often left broken and confused by the experience.
The fact of the matter is that narcissists want people to commit to them, but they will never truly commit to anyone. They are always on the prowl, searching for new sources of supply. By the time they decide to discard you, they have usually already secured a new source.
Narcissists often provide clues about their behavior and intentions. Many have a tendency to flirt openly, even in front of their partners. They may also highlight when others find them attractive, all to make their partners feel insecure and to give the impression that they are desired by many. Narcissists will take on as many romantic relationships as they believe they can handle.
When it is time to discard someone, do not expect them to do it kindly. Here are three dirty ways narcissists end relationships so they can move on to new supply:
1. Starting Fights
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When a narcissist is ready to discard someone, everything becomes an argument. That final fight will often be the worst of all. Everything will be exaggerated, enabling them to feel justified in ending the relationship.
Even though leaving is their personal desire, they will make you feel like it is your fault. Everything you do will be criticized, and nothing will please them anymore. The very sight of you might anger or annoy them. They will blame you for bringing out the worst in them.
The narcissist wants out but also wants you to blame yourself for it. They will never admit to being selfish, inconsiderate, or unfaithful. Instead, they make you believe you are the reason for their infidelity, unhappiness, and the relationship’s failure.
2. Disappearing Without Explanation
Another common tactic is for narcissists to simply vanish. They do not officially end the relationship; they just disappear, block you, and leave you wondering what happened.
During this time, they are often with their new supply, carrying on as though you do not exist. They may resurface days, weeks, or months later, wanting to pick up where they left off, only to disappear again.
This behavior keeps their partner in limbo, unsure of what is happening. However, it is essential to understand that this is not a healthy relationship. When they are not with you, you do not exist in their world.
3. Manipulating Their Partner to End It
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In some cases, the narcissist will manipulate their partner into ending the relationship. This allows them to play the victim.
They achieve this by making their partners jealous, often talking about their exes or even spending time with them. If their ex is the new supply, the narcissist will ensure their current partner is aware of it.
The narcissist may become standoffish, give silent treatments, or make themselves difficult to deal with, all while maintaining plausible deniability. When their partner finally ends the relationship, the narcissist will not resist because that was their intention all along.
Final Thoughts
When a narcissist wants out, someone will inevitably get hurt — and it will not be the narcissist. Their actions are always for their benefit, leaving their partners without closure or accountability.
Narcissists care only about fulfilling their needs and desires, regardless of the harm they cause.
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